Millennials, the generation who are known for their actively progressive, narcissistic, conscious identifying global citizenship, compassionate, liberal, and adventurous characteristics, are not only making a difference in society but recreating the rules to the dating game and the dynamics of what it means to be in a relationship.
Identifying as a millennial myself, I was born in the middle of the generation’s spectrum, 1989. My almost 29 years of existence has taught me a lot about dating in the last decade. It is not what my Generation X parents, the media, or young adult books prepared me for, and definitely not my Baby Booming grandparents way of falling in love.
While dating as a millennial, there are many titles a person can fall under, and it is safe for me to say, “I have been most of them.”
If you are wondering about some of these titles the list follows:
Friend with Benefits
Being labeled as some of these titles were upsetting, but thanks to the practice of self-care and love, I now look back on past relationships as stepping stones to the wife I have become. I am not saying the titles will lead you to become someone’s wife because to be a wife you have to want it; it is similar to the law of attraction, and that will be a different blog post.
Now, you are probably wondering how are millennials recreating the dynamics of relationships, and the answer is easy: Millenials will NOT settle for less.
When people study millennials, they fail to realize or even implicate the fact that most millennials want what is best for them and those they love the most.
In the dating world, millennials are Capricorns, always on the hunt for something better, (something I adore since I am a Capricorn).
This doesn’t mean millennials are unable to settle, because lots of millennials are in happy long-term committed relationships, whether it is with one partner, several partners, or dating themselves.
As a millennial, the traditional rules of what makes a relationship healthy is slowly dwindling. Millenials are communicating more and seeing what worked for their parents may not work for them.
This newfound awareness helps millennials venture out, and find others who believe in the same ideas as they do when it comes to dating or being in a relationship. The beauty of this open-mindedness to dating is; nobody is meant to conform to a set of rules created by whomever to have a happily ever after.
While society has its way of trying to force people to adapt to a particular style of living, millennials are fighting back and recreating the concept of “LOVE” into an idea that welcomes everyone, no matter their sexual preference & orientation, gender identity, relationship status, or choice of relationship design ( monogamy or polyamory).
No one is left out of the playing field of dating & relationships, with millennials outnumbering previous generations and possibly future generations to come. It is only a matter of time before traditional standards of what defines a perhaps “healthy relationship,” will be redefined, so no one is excluded.
Now don’t get me wrong, millennials are not set out to change everything or erase foundations of previous structures. Most of us are here to add icing to the cake or challenge specific ideas, myths, or theories that no longer fit modern ideas or people.
The formal dating structure probably worked for previous generations, and some millennials probably agree with some of the basics. However, it doesn’t apply to all and that is where millennials come in to challenge those ideas.
The former structure may remain intact, but a more comprehensive definition might replace the original meaning of what is and isn’t a healthy relationship, due to the many types of relationships people may find themselves in.
For example, a person who is in a polyamorous relationship might follow some basic “healthy relationship tips,” but they will eventually have to create their own module for the sake of their sanity. Since polyamory is not a western-hemisphere idea; of what a healthy relationship stands for, most information searched will be formatted from a monogamous perception.
All of that information is good until relationships get a little more complicated.
For instance, two people may agree upon a partnership and create a situation that may not sit right with them because they believe other people aren’t doing the same thing, but it is exactly what they want.
As a result, their partnership may end due to information that has already been correlated based off of others relationships dictating what are the rights and wrongs of being a couple. The structure tends to make people forget couples can create their own set of rules in their relationship and forget the rest, as long as there is consent, happiness, and no abuse involved.
In conclusion, as long as the members of the relationship agree with what makes their particular relationship work, and nobody is getting hurt due to other people desires, then there shouldn’t be a set of rules to follow, or laws holding people back from love.
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