Book Title: Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life
Author: Nagoski, Emily
Genre: Nonfiction, Self-help, Sexual Health
For many years women have learned about their sexual wellbeing through studies tested on men. These studies have caused insecurities, sexual blockage, and confusion amongst many women. However, new research has found ways to help women and men have a better sex life that brings comfort and reduces stress.
Come As You Are is a self-help book for women who have questions about their body when engaging in sex. In the book, author Emily Nagoski shared stories from her clients and students, who have had problems with their sexuality throughout her years as a professor of Human Sexuality. She used the stories as examples to help her readers understand what they are possibly experiencing in their sex lives is normal, and there is a way to overcome their sexual obstacles.
Nagoksi breaks down concerns many women might have throughout their sexual lives and explained the sexual spectrum women fall on. Each of the explanations within the book was written in detail using metaphorical scenarios, to help readers understand what they are experiencing, why it is happening, how to recognize what is happening to them, and how to overcome the situation. There are many references and notes throughout the book that goes into further detail on some concerns women might have, and also worksheets at the end of each chapter.
The 417-page book is narrated in the first person. Due to the writing style, Nagoski includes her own personal thoughts and comments in the book, which can make the reader feel as if he/she is sitting with the author. Nagoski used the writing style to help boost the reader’s confidence by always reminding them no matter what they are experiencing they are normal.
I enjoyed Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life. The formatting of the book allows me to go back for reference. The stories used in the book were entertaining, and although there are lessons throughout the book I didn’t feel like I was reading to learn, I was reading for pleasure.
However, there were some things I didn’t like about the authors writing style, I felt Nagoski made it a little too personal. Although she used many examples and references which were all factual and proven analysis, her writing style was too relaxed for me. Since she is a professor, I understand why she had to make the overall narrative personal due to most of her research coming from personal experiences with her students. I just felt that Nagoski should’ve focused more on the studies and left out her side comments and jokes. I believe if she left out her own remarks it would’ve given the reader a chance to develop their own for exploration of themselves.
Overall, I would recommend the book to someone who is having trouble accepting themselves sexually. A woman or man that is confused or wants a better understanding of how women work in the real world. I also believe if a person wanted to get into sex education this is a book to check out because it helps you understand the spectrum of women sexuality a little better, how to give answers to their issues, and give tips.